Disclaimer for trolls reading this post:
My writings tonight are not
(nor have ever been) a cry for pity or sympathy.
It's just me talking about how my fucked up head
deals with stuff that happens in my life.
That's how I've always intended this blog to be.
I started hurting myself again tonight.
I lost two friends in the matter of 3 days.
I was publicly stomped on by a troll, but when I dared to defend myself, my now use to be friends advised me to stop writing for the public to read, that I should take down everything I've ever written about my ex.
Yesterday I was numb, today I was beating myself up. Could there be things so awful that I had written that I don't recall? Am I really so angry that I fail to realize that everything I write is about him?
So tonight as I realized I needed to write out my pain, rather than try to bleed it out of myself, I dove head first into the search engine on my blog. I needed to see how many times I had allegedly "misrepresented (my) ex-fiance."
You know how many times I made barest mention of my ex? 3 times. In the span of 186 posts.
- engaged and ditched at the alter,
- I'm doing TONS better about the whole ex-fiance thing. It's not like ending a relationship with a boyfriend, for heavens sake, I was ready to pledge my live to him!
- I hate that when my fiancee dumped me at the alter, claiming that I was not trustworthy and would probably have an affair, still angers me. He came from a broken family, which saddens my heart. He had problems that he was unable to see, but I still loved that foolish boy. I know that I would not make the same mistakes and get involved with someone so damaged, but I am still afraid of trusting someone again.
I'm not a bad person. Looking at it now, I don't think I'm that angry about that relationship either. If I were, shouldn't more of my writings be devoted to my angst/torch bearing to my ex, as I was accused by the troll.
I'm sad all this unnecessary drama has been stirred up. I'm sad that a poisonous troll had such power over friends who have known me for over 13 years.
I'm sorry that my words, spoken in confidence, where used against me.
So no, I won't stop writing. I won't make my writings private. Because I said nothing wrong in the first place.
Now I just need to convince my brain to let go of the hurt so I can stop the bleeding on my skin.